Did you know?

In first marriages the divorce rate is 35-40%
In second marriages the divorce rate skyrockets up to 60-70%

In first marriages the highest divorce rate is within the first 4 years
In second marriages the highest divorce rate is within the first 2 years

Adoration, respect and trust are key components to a successful marriage
A strong friendship is a key component to a successful marriage

Knowing each others vulnerabilities and disabilities is critical to a successful marriage
Accepting your spouses character flaws and imperfections is part of what sustains a marriage
Having outside friends and a support system is critical to a successful marriage

According to recent research there are 9 major components and 4 major themes and topics that will contribute to divorce.

* Publicly humiliating your spouse
* A sensitive issue or a vulnerability used as ammunition to hurt your spouse
* Affairs
** Failure to repair conflict
** The 4 Horsemen
Defensiveness
Contempt
Criticism
Stonewalling

** Flooding of emotions
** Bad memories of your history as most pervasive
** Harsh Start Ups—Beginning an interaction with accusation or criticism

The 4 major themes and topics leading to divorce are:

Child rearing conflicts and differences
Money conflicts
Sex problems
Problems with In-Laws

DO YOU KNOW?

Your sensitivities and weaknesses and even more important, does your fiancé know your sensitivities and weaknesses?
Your fiancés vulnerabilities and weaknesses?
Your values about Child Rearing, Money Sexual intimacy and In-Laws and does your fiancé know about your values in these 4 critical areas?
How to communicate and problem solve effectively?

* Research by Barry McCarthy, PhD. Author of “Getting it Right the First Time” and “Getting it Right this Time”
** Research by John Gottman, PhD. Author of “The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work”
and “Why Marriages Fail and how Yours can Succeed”

The Pre-marital and early marriage mentorship and coaching program is a 12 week course that takes engaged couples and married couples, within the first 2 years of marriage, through a step by step process in order to increase marital longevity.

By integrating a combination of education, skills building, a powerful communication model, practice exercises and fun homework assignments, couples are effectively able to address the 9 major components that contribute to divorce. Through the process of identifying individual vulnerabilities and weaknesses, couples are taught through their own existing strengths, to design and implement strategies and prevention techniques to combat these potential saboteurs. In addition, couples will look at patterns of past relationships and/or marriages, in order to examine what didn’t work, as a way to avoid relapsing back into those same pitfalls.

Pre-marital and early marriage mentorship and coaching, by its design, brings a very positive, upbeat and fun energy to the participants. They also leave with a manual that correlates with all of the work they do throughout the 12 week program. This manual works as a reference guide and a reminder to the participants of the strategies and skills that they have learned.

Bob Sugar, LPC, CRET is a licensed counselor and a Certified Relationship Enhancement® Therapist and is an expert in the field of couples therapy. His 26 years in the field of counseling brings a level of experience that allows couples to feel an immediate rapport with him. His style and delivery reveals the key secrets to living well as a couple. He has been married for 19 years and personally walks the walk of a committed married man.